10 Permissions to be!

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To eat or not to eat the donut that is the question!
I made the decision and I just had a donut. So what I hear you say that’s no big deal. Well it was for me. I thought about it and thought about it and even had dreams about it (okay that might be a bit excessive after all it’s just a donut).

I then tried to work out just how that donut fitted in with my new approach to food and healthy eating and just how many inches it was going to put on my waistline and then I figured that with all of that worry, anxiety and pontificating, I had burnt up enough calories to make room for that one donut so I ate it!

I think it’s important to be able to rationalize your thoughts and actions where necessary, and that helped me immensely. I have to say that after all of that thinking and deliberating, the eating of the donut was not nearly as exciting as the anticipation of it all.

The eating or not eating of the donut is symptomatic of a bigger issue and I don’t mean my dress size. It’s about what we tell ourselves and the decisions we make as a result.

I am reading a book called ‘Eat the cookie, buy the shoes’ by Joyce Meyer love the title (it’s one of those you wish you had thought up yourself) and I have to say Joyce helped me with my donut decision. She simply says that we need to reward ourselves for a job well done and sometimes as a sweetener to finish things that we have started. As I look down my ‘yet to do list’ I think I might adopt that approach. I wonder how much quicker it would be to get things done if there was a reward at the end? I’m going to try that, maybe not always a donut though!

Joyce says: “There are times when we all need to eat the cookie and buy the shoes in order to help us finish what we have started or as a way of celebrating something we have accomplished. Your cookie and shoes can be anything that you enjoy…as long as it is not immoral or illegal.”

Sounds a lot like giving ourselves permission to enjoy the journey. I don’t know about you but there are times when my journey through life feels like a walk up the side of a mountain where the oxygen levels have changed (dramatically) and I am now gasping for breath as I have no oxygen mask (or maybe that’s just me?)

So I decided, just like eating the donut, it was time to give myself permission to do other things in life some of which I am sure you will be familiar with and others that will probably strike a soulful chord with you. I have called them the 10 permissions to be. You might want to print them out or make a list of your own to remind you that you have permission.

Remember when you were in school? Okay I know that might be further back for some of you but the principal remains the same. If you were going to do something or go somewhere other than where/what you would normally do on a school day you had to get permission from your parents. Well it’s a bit like that you are the parent and that amazing person on the inside is simply asking for your permission.

10 Permissions to be

Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Perfection is a myth and the more we strive for things to be perfect before we act the more we miss out on life. Don’t get it right get it done!
Give yourself permission to be the artist in your life and splash some colour on your canvas just to see how it looks.
Give yourself permission to fail. Let’s face it there are times in our lives when it happens. It would be so much easier to deal with and we would probably spend much less time feeling sorry for ourselves if we simply said it was okay to fail (providing of course we learn from it to take us on to success)
Give yourself permission to discover your greatness. There is something great and awesome on the inside of each of us if only we would give it permission to come to the surface.
Give yourself permission to connect with the child within, not only is there healing there is also permission to have fun and enjoy the journey.
Give yourself permission to succeed. Marianne Williamson in return to love, suggests that it is often our success and not our failure that frightens us.
Give yourself permission to take a risk. None of us know for sure what tomorrow may hold, so by all means plan for it, but don’t waste time worrying about it, step boldly onto the platform of today and enjoy.
Give yourself permission to take tap into your power. We all have a powerful force that runs through us tap into it and see where it leads.
Give yourself permission to take be happy. Stop waiting for something or someone to make it so. Choose happiness and see where that road takes you.
Give yourself permission to be you. The truth is all other positions are taken and that is all that is available to you but the fantastic thing is that you don’t need to learn anything new, you just need to be and everything else will be taken care of.